By now, virtually everyone has seen how Hollywood portrays divorce. In many television shows and movies, divorcing couples engage in an all-out battle in open court. While this makes for a thrilling viewing experience, it does not capture the reality of divorce for many Americans.
According to the American Bar Association, collaborative divorce happens almost entirely outside of court, and judges love it. Through the process, which is an alternative to litigation, you and your spouse work together to wrap up your marriage. Here are three tell-tale signs your ex might be willing to have a collaborative divorce.
It is perfectly normal to worry about financial matters in the lead-up to a divorce. After all, both you and your spouse might have to adjust to living on just one income. Because collaborative divorce typically is much less expensive than litigation, your spouse might go for it to save some money.
Most children hate to know their parents are fighting, as it jeopardizes their sense of stability. Even though your kids might know your divorce is inevitable, it also might be comforting to them to know you and your spouse still can work together. Consequently, if your spouse wants to protect your children, a collaborative divorce may be appealing.
If you and your soon-to-be ex have fought about seemingly everything under the sun, your spouse might not have any fight left. That is, rather than continuing to bicker, he or she may be ready to look for common ground.
Ultimately, if your husband or wife is already showing signs of divorce fatigue, a collaborative divorce might be a welcome reprieve.